On a recent drive from Dallas to Lubbock, I listened to the first few episodes of The Gold Digger podcast. Something she said really inspired me and led me to write this post. She talked about being authentic and real with our customers and readers. I think the biggest challenge for me and fear is presenting a glamorous enough life on social media that would motivate potential clients to work with me. After listening to Jenna, she talked about how important it is to be yourself in all aspects of your work and to show that to your clients. So, here I go! I want to share a little bit about myself and some of the things I try to brush under the rug in this little business I’m growing.My real life consists of chasing my crazy 2.5 year-old-son around. I stopped working full-time, because I wanted to be home with my son as much as possible. Because of this, I have to work my whole schedule around him. Oftentimes I have to reschedule appointments or can’t make events because I can’t find childcare or my son is sick. Just today I had to tell a potential bride that we could either reschedule or meet at Chick-fil-A while my son tags along, because all of my go to child care has come down with the flu and my husband is out of town. That is my reality. I am a mom whose world revolves around her son. If we talk on the phone, you will very likely hear him in the background asking me to put on a show, get him a snack, or just screaming, because… ya know. He is 2.5. My husband is in graduate school, just finished his Master’s degree, and has 2.5 years of school before he finishes his PhD. We then have a year of internship. That’s 3.5 more years of school! Yikes. The reality is we aren’t wealthy. We are a young (is 31 young?) married couple trying to make it through graduate school with as little debt as possible. I bust my butt working from home as an adjunct college professor, a mommy blogger for Ju-Ju-Be diaper bags, and running my floral business + blog all to be the (main) breadwinner and full-time mom while my husband is gone 8am – 6pm everyday (and sometimes evenings with night classes) with work and school.My reality includes piles of dirty clothes. I don’t shower every single day. My house is generally trashed. The cleanest and most put together thing in our house is our toddler (if that tells you anything). I rarely ever get “done up” and usually look like I just crawled out of a dumpster. I have grey hair. I don’t wear makeup everyday. I bite my nails. I’m not glamorous. Sometimes I wish I could be that type of woman, but I’m just not. In fact, I once tried to start a lifestyle blog and that lasted a week. That was before I had Porter. I couldn’t put myself together enough everyday to take pictures and post them. If you ever want to see some of the pictures I took in my attempts to be fancy, let me know. They are purreetttty hilarious! Someday I won’t be juggling so much, but right now I am. I wouldn’t trade it for anything, though! I am lucky to be home with my little guy everyday and feel blessed I have jobs that allow me to do that. Because my husband is in school and we aren’t quite rolling in the dough (yet ;)), my clients might see me pull up for an appointment in our beat up pick up truck. Whoever has Porter gets the nicer car with the carseat and the other gets to drive the truck. You might see me deliver flowers in my rusty old truck. It’s liberating to share that with everyone! “I’m [broke]! I’m [broke] and I don’t care who knows it!” For a long time I’ve tried to hide that part of our present life, but that’s the reality.Another major reality for us is infertility and child loss. After Porter, we lost a daughter (still born) and have experienced 2 miscarriages. We are days away from being certified foster parents and hope to adopt through foster-care. I am working with a doctor, too, and have been poked and prodded, taken vitamins and medicine, and still waiting for some answers. I often use my work as a distraction from what I want most of all – to be a mother to many. That’s my reality. I don’t share this for you to feel sorry for me, but for you to know me as a real person!I am a mother and wife first and a business owner/employee second. While this little business I’m working to grow isn’t my number one priority, it is a huge passion of mine! I love creating through floral design. I love meeting brides and working with them to find the perfect balance between design and budget. I have found so much joy in starting this blog and sharing inspiration through DIY projects, holiday decor, and other creative ideas. I may be biased, but I’m a pretty freaking good floral designer! Like. Really good (hair flip). So while I’m not a glamorous or have it all together, I am so glad that you have chosen to follow along and be a part of my journey as I grow Poppies and Peonies Design! If you feel like reaching out to me and struggle with any of the same things I do, shoot me an e-mail! I’d love to chat and connect with you. email@example.com
All pictures are by Honeybee Photography.